Deal with the pain during the Christmas holidays

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We believe that the Christmas holidays as a time of joy and celebration, a time for giving and taking, and especially time with his family.

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Unfortunately, for many of us, life intervenes and we are dealing with grief during the holidays. There are many over the Christmas period with an acute awareness that one or more of their family members are not present, either by death, divorce or circumstances.

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Died in December 2008, my daughter Monica, and earlier this year, ourSon of Colin's dead. In the late summer of 2006, my son Richard died. My wife and I are already discussing the lack of difference in our Christmas leave Colin.

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Monique's mother, my ex-wife, lost her husband died two weeks before Monica. I have not spoken to her to be in the Christmas season with an awareness of their losses, as there are with us.

So the question is: is it possible to enjoy the holiday season while dealing with the pain?

Back in my 30 years Iwas separated from my children for several years. In the process of dulling the pain he was an alcoholic. Trying not to be aware of the pain was silent, and I paid a heavy price to be realized.

Years later, two of our adult children are not always very well together and refused to come and visit us at Christmas, when the other wanted to be here. We have a conscious decision to try something different for us: We went on vacation. We have three Christmasuntil the children had resolved their differences and be friends again. We have lost children, so it was not a perfect solution, but it was much better than it was in the midst of conflict and the hope of something that should not be.

Our losses in the recent past, we are aware of its absence. We have our rituals to recognize and celebrate the lives of our children, who have passed. We can hang. We certainly talk too muchhow we want to Monique, Colin and Richard, who enrich the lives of others, and what they have learned.

Christmas just a moment in which he was afraid to do so. If you are facing the loss of this Christmas, make your rituals, and to confirm that you are now absent. Drink less, to keep more aware of their absence and their present. If possible, connect with others who understand your loss and accept your need to confirm your reviewLoss. Avoid people who are doing their job to encourage you and you forget.

Talk about being together with your cat, pets.

Deal with the pain during the Christmas holidays

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